Individual and Marriage Counseling for New Bern, Bayboro, & Oriental NC
Dr. Bryce Kaye
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In an old Greek myth, a host named Procrustes had a peculiar fetish for making his guests fit their bed at night. Instead of trying to "fit" a person’s needs into one school of therapy, I do my best to make sure my therapeutic approach fits a person’s needs. While my techniques are varied, my style does lean in one direction. I have a reputation for being extremely active and direct in the form of an "active advocacy". Many clients have found themselves dissatisfied with prior therapists who have merely been passive and emotionally supportive. My style is more ambitious. The first thing I do is to help the person clarify goals and get an agreement about what we are trying to accomplish. From then on, I direct focus and energy toward whatever will be most helpful toward reaching those goals. Very often, a person’s history is relevant in understanding how certain emotions or beliefs became conditioned to their current state. However, I find that insight and understanding alone are usually insufficient to produce most emotional changes. To bring about changes in emotion or emotionally determined behavior, a well-designed plan of intervention is necessary. When I make recommendations for a course of intervention, I always explain the principles of psychology and emotion behind it.
In the course of therapy, I do a fair amount of personalized teaching.
One way that I do rely on insight is to teach a person how to influence their
emotions. Our emotions follow a somewhat different set of rules than ordinary
behavior. Usually, we can immediately choose how we want to behave. With
emotions, we can’t. Our feelings are learned in a different way than what we
think of as ordinary learning. We learn to feel certain ways through either
powerful or repetitive emotional experience. The technical term is called
"conditioning." My style of therapy has been influenced by my years of study of
psychophysiology and how emotions are “conditioned.” My theoretical orientation
incorporates Russian research on perception and conditioned reflexes as well as
western research on the brain circuitry of attention, perception, emotions and
learning. I have found that while our emotional conditioning can’t be
immediately changed, it can be gradually altered if we learn to use the correct
tools. In very effective therapy, these tools are employed and people make
dramatic changes in their feelings. So the paradox is this: feelings can be
changed but you just need to learn some new rules about how to influence them
without trying to control them.
The following are some of the kinds of therapy that I do. Click on any topic for a more in-depth description of how I approach it.
Marriage counseling and relationship therapy (Click Here)
Adjustment counseling & stress management (Click Here)
Healing emotional wounds (trauma resolution) (Click Here)
Raising self-esteem and reducing self-defeating shame (Click Here)
Anger management & assertiveness training (Click Here)
Chapters from a book I have in progress. Print them out for easier reading.
Chapter 2 - The Structure of Vital Relationships
Chapter 3 - Balance and Paradox
Chapter 4 - Nurturing Healthy Attachments
Chapter 5 - Love's Hidden Assassin
Chapter 6 - The Other Usual Suspects
A collection of self-help tools
that I've written for couplesReciprocal Suppression in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex - A very technical article about the probable underlying neurology of EMDR treatment
Conflict Inoculation Training - A technical article I'm writing about a new type of treatment for rage behavior or conflict avoidance
Here are some open forum discussions I've had with people who asked questions on my internet Marriage First Aid Kit. Choose your topic of interest below:
The following are some of my writings that you might find interesting:
Intimacy & Boundaries Series
Background - Dr. Kaye is a psychologist with a license to practice in North Carolina. He obtained his license in 1979 after receiving his masters and doctorate from the University of Illinois with a specialty in personality. He completed his psychological internship at the Phoenix Veterans Administration Hospital in Phoenix, Arizona in 1976. From 1977 through 1983 he was the Director of Outpatient Services for Wake County Alcoholism Treatment Center. While there, he authored and directed a federal research grant that developed the outpatient program. He also researched the effectiveness of treatment and developed the family program as a part of his research grant.
In 1984, Dr. Kaye started Cary Counseling Center which later became incorporated under the name Allied Psychological Services, PA in 1992. He has had years of experience in performing individual psychotherapy, marriage counseling, and substance abuse counseling. He is also a trained and certified EMDR psychotherapist, having received certification by the EMDR International Association. Dr. Kaye is currently the director of Cary and Oriental Counseling Centers.
If You’re Interested
If you want to explore the possibility of therapy with me, I usually recommend one session and then you can go home and think about it. One session is usually enough time for me to give you feedback about a recommended direction and strategy. To schedule a meeting time, call me at 252-249-3099.
05/02/2007