Strategic Individual and Marriage Counseling for Raleigh, Cary, Apex & Morrisville at Cary Counseling Center (919 467 1180)

 Dr. Bryce Kaye, Psychologist

Author of The Marriage First Aid Kit, a book about marital healing and marriage counseling

Strategic Counseling is Active and Direct

"Strategic counseling" is active and direct unlike other forms of counseling that are passive.  Whether it's individual psychotherapy or couples counseling, I work with a logical plan on how to help you to achieve your goals.  I believe that you deserve more out of counseling than just being heard and supported.  My active style is to teach you different strategies to gradually change your emotions and emotionally driven behaviors over time.  That way, you can grow to become the person or the couple that you want to be. 

So that you can better understand my approach, I have placed an incredible amount of useful information on this website.  If you want individual counseling or therapy, read below about the different types that I offer.  If you seek marriage counseling, then open the following Marriage First Aid Kit to help yourselves even before you come to counseling.

Some Types of Individual Counseling That I Offer to Raleigh and Cary Residents:

    Adjustment counseling & stress management    (Click Here)

    Healing emotional wounds (trauma resolution)   (Click Here)

    Raising self-esteem and reducing self-defeating shame  (Click Here)

    Anger management & assertiveness training      (Click Here)

To Help Your Marriage:

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2. Use the on-line diagnostic tools and see which syndromes apply to your marriage.  Pay particular attention to a) the Emotional Starvation Syndrome, b) the Pursuer - Evader Syndrome and c) the Delinquent Helper Syndrome.  Ask your spouse to read the same and discuss the reading to reach a consensus.
3. Both of you need to read chapters 1 through 4 of the main book in the kit.  It's complex reading but it's the best synopsis of what really goes on in relationships.  You may want to print out these pages to make your reading easier.
4. If your marriage suffers from Emotional Starvation Syndrome, then study chapter 4 in the main book and set up regular weekly "connection" times for you and your spouse.  Use the exercises in chapter 4 to re-ignite emotional intimacy.  If you have problems, then read chapters 5 and 7.
5. If your marriage suffers from Pursuer - Evader Syndrome, then study chapter 8 diligently.  Both you and your spouse will need to practice the "When and Where Rule" and especially the micro-corrections exercise.  The latter exercise has restored passion for many Raleigh and Cary couples by removing covert inhibition.  However, the process requires about 6 weeks of diligent practice.
6. If your marriage suffers from Delinquent Helper Syndrome, then read chapter 10 and go through the procedure for re-negotiating "ownership" of responsibilities to replace "helpership."
7. Read the rest of the main book if you desire to learn about other subtle problems and their solutions.  You can also read the on-line advice given to others about other types of marriage problems.

Click Here to open your free online kit to help your marriage:

If you’re interested and you're willing to travel from Raleigh to Cary:

        If you want to explore the possibility of individual or marriage counseling with me, I usually recommend one session and then you can go back home to think about it. One session is usually enough time for me to give you feedback about a recommended strategy for individual or marriage counseling.  To schedule a meeting time, call me at 919-467-1180.  My office is convenient to most parts of Raleigh, Cary, Apex and Morrisville.